Choose Between Career and Love

 

Choose Between Career and Love - There is whole debate going on about career versus love and which is more important. People will come and testify how love helped them in their perfect career, while the other set of people will term this as crap and flaunt their extremely successful careers.

But is this question so important to warrant a discussion over Internet, chat forums, televisions show and every other possible media. I have few of my own case studies on this matter.

One of my friends in Kolkata was maintaining a long distance relationship for the past 3 years. After some time my friend married his long time girlfriend and move to Mumbai with her. So far so good! He was working in a big MNC and she was employed in a reputable government organization. 

Recently the company offered my friend an onsite assignment for 6 months. An onsite assignment comes with its own perks in terms of extra salary and a huge boost in career. An onsite assignment experience counts a lot in his industry. 

The issue is that his wife with the government job can’t move with him and she can’t leave the job as well. So what should he do? Well in this case, I know that he went to that long onsite assignment.

But then I surf Internet and I see some confused soul who have to choose that dream job and their partner because they will have to be separated for few months if the confused soul decides to take up the offer.

In my opinion culture plays a very important role in both the cases. Neither of them is right or wrong. The fact is that India has softer culture as compared to USA or UK. 

The relationships are more flexible here, maybe because of the family system that the country promotes, whereas in USA, personal independence and freedom is highly promoted. So when it comes between choices of career versus love, Indian tends to be more flexible and try to adjust whereas in USA it is about making tough choices and prioritizing stuffs.

Sometimes we jump too early on this career versus love debate. The first thing we need to figure is what are the choices we have to make. Is it about giving up everything or making certain small compromises. If the case falls in the former category than a proper assessment needs to be done.

There can be numerous reasons for making a choice between careers versus love. These can be.

A career opportunity that is “once in a lifetime opportunity” Chance to devote every waking minute to your career, without having the guilt of actually neglecting someone.

Chance to focus entirely on your job, without the worry and distraction of love or relationship getting in the way.

Now it needs to be seen what are we loosing or gaining by making the choices. We as human beings need proper care and support at some point of our life. We need someone to share our feelings with at the end of the day. 

People who focus on their careers without caring too much about relationships tend to feel the heat during their mid 30s. It is truer for women. Being alone can have its downsides. It can sometimes bring hopelessness and a feeling that more productive years of your life were spent searching for the wrong stuff. 

Eventually, a lonely person will start to have a somewhat flagging career just because they are so lonely and unhappy.

So if you are planning on that dream career and forgo the lovely relationship you have, you may want to rethink. If still you are ready to chose your career over a particular relationship than probably it is not the love that you were seeking.

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